Buddhism 499: The Only App You Need Is Silence

hardie karges

Oct 15

If in doubt, then leave it out. Some of the cleverest words are never spoken, simply because they might hurt someone in the process...and that's not good. But that's one of the most difficult tasks for a Western convert to Buddhism, especially Americans, for whom argumentation is a way of life, even on a good day, even for the best of us, schooled in the liberal arts and dedicated to the proposition that all humans are created equal.

But sometimes the advanced degrees only get in the way of politeness and forbearance, which is often seen as old-fashioned or too folksy in an age where a clenched fist stands for political correctness and a loud mouth stands for factual correctness. Good luck with that. But I forgive the BLM (no, not the Bureau of Land Management) for the naïve assumption that 'Silence is Violence,' since I know where they're coming from and largely agree with their goals if not tactics. If history has taught me anything, it's taught me that there are usually better tactics than violence, or even confrontation. Just ask C.C. Boycott.

As Buddhists, though, peace of mind is one of the main goals of our path, and that's non-negotiable, just like human rights and freedom of expression. But patience is a virtue, and most arguments are non-essential. I once had a policy with a previous partner that whenever an argument lasted too long, we should stop, sleep on it, then come back to it again the next day. Guess what? Not once could we even remember what the argument was about, much less care to revisit it the next day, not once.

That's typical of lower-level mind-stuff. We argue the most minute details to the last breath, and still people die of unnecessary wars at a rate that never seems to abate, though that point is arguable, too, haha. Meditation is the best response (non-response?) to too much mind-stuff, of course, and I won't insult the ape community by calling it 'monkey-mind.' That's us. The only difference is that they don't meditate, not yet. Silence is our birthright. Be kind and don't intrude on that of others.